I was raised to judge. After years of education, I came to the conclusion that this is a terrible thing to do. It's easy to judge because judging involves using the mechanism of blame. Blaming is super easy to do because there's no responsibility involved with blaming. Instead, I've chosen to embrace understanding. It's more difficult to invent a scenario that explains why something is happening but doing so forces you to understand. I find that the model of understanding is much healthier for my emotional state. It also has the added benefit of causing me to rationalize why nuances in the world exist.